Counselor

A counselor is best described as an unbiased wise friend without any personal agenda who has the professional skills and experience to help you.

A counselor will:

• Listen to you
• Treat you with unconditional positive regard
• Empathise
• Remain unbiased
• Be honest at all times
• Do their best to understand your world and how you view it
• Impart wisdom and experience
• Help you explore why you think, feel and behave as you do
• Provide suggestions and assist you with a plan of action
• Set assignments or tasks where appropriate
• Help you climb life’s mountains

A good counselor will also gently challenge any unhelpful beliefs or assumptions you may have – and, if denial exists, help you to overcome it.

Imagine a little girl is watching her mother prepare a pot roast. She asks: “Mommy, why do we cut the ends off the pot roast before cooking it?”

Her mother replies: “Well darling, that’s how we cook a pot roast.”

“Yes mommy I know. But why?”

“Because that’s how you cook a pot roast darling – it’s the way we have always cooked a pot roast. It’s how my mommy taught me how to cook a pot roast. If you really want to know, why don’t you go and ask grandma – she’s in the lounge.”

The little girl goes into the lounge and asks: “Grandma, why do we cut the ends off the pot roast before we cook it?”

Her grandma answers: “Well darling, that’s how we cook a pot roast.”

“Yes grandma, I understand that. But why?”

“Because that’s how you cook a pot roast darling – it’s the way we have always cooked a pot roast. It’s how my mommy taught me how to cook a pot roast. If you really want to know, why don’t you go and ask great grandma – she’s only upstairs.”

The little girl goes upstairs and asks her great grandma: “Why do we cut the ends off the pot roast before we cook it?”

Her great grandma replies: “Well darling, that’s how we cook a pot roast – it’s the way we have always done it.”

“Yes I know great grandma! But why do we have to?”

“Well darling, when I was a little girl we didn’t have a pan big enough to cook it in.”

Sometimes automatic assumptions need to be challenged!

About us

Online Counseling provides clients all over the world with email, telephone and video conference counseling sessions.

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